After the second Parents' Evening, by the Parent

I am beginning to feel like a fraud and am honestly struggling for things to write at the moment, but keen to update the blog at useful intervals to give our perspective.  Last week there was a Parents' Evening and I  could not have been more pleased by what was being said.  I am going to relish it, as not sure this will happen again! It was very positive as regards his literacy and numeracy and even that he is trying at points to interact with others at playtime.  This is so much better than I had hoped as I think, as a parent of a pupil with extra needs, you do often try to protect yourself by preparing for the worst. 

For example, several weeks ago my mobile phone went and it was my son’s Support for Learning Teacher.  I could feel my stomach turn in anxiety, sure it was some bad news about his behaviour.  But no!  The phone call was to ask if it was okay for Robert to do some extra work with a Learning Assistant who is interested in numbers!  We discussed maybe looking at the language that surrounds numbers and I explained his current fascination for space.  I mean, really, could I ask for any more from this school?  Which is another reason why I feel like a fraud.  Am I honestly reflecting a typical mainstream experience for an autistic child?  Surely this is an example of best practice and we have been incredibly lucky to have our son in this school at this time with this sort of support?

As always I am cautious and realistic about the future, things will become noticeable but we will help our son with that when it comes.  At the moment, I cannot ask for more from the school and his experience seems incredibly positive at this time.  


Written by Robert's mum

The review meeting, by the Support for Learning Teacher

The day of the Jimmy's review meeting was nearly five weeks after we saw Jimmy's parents and we all voiced the same concerns.  Since that meeting, the P1s have started to attend school for the full day.  Most of the time, Jimmy falls asleep for a part or most of the afternoon.  He is beginning to soil himself at school too, sometimes multiple times a day.  Overall, Jimmy was continuing to be unsettled in class and at school.  There are some small rays of light, though: Jimmy was granted extra Learning Assistant time to help him with the full days and now another Learning Assistant other than Mrs Brodie works with Jimmy in the afternoons.  Jimmy at times sits, listens to a story and drinks his milk with the rest of the class.  The other children look out for Jimmy and try to engage with him.  It isn't reciprocated, unfortunately.

Jimmy's parents also decided that they were definitely going to protest the rejection of a special school place.  The team around the table (consisting of two Educational Psychologists, a Support Learning Co-ordinator, a Visiting Teacher from the Visiting Teacher and Support Service, Mrs Irvine, Mrs Morris, Mrs Brodie and me) generally agreed with this decision.  After all, most of us had observed or worked with Jimmy in class and agreed that his situation was serious and untenable. 

The team also discussed another, different point: Jimmy being moved to the other P1 classroom.  This move was recommended by Visiting Teacher and Support Service.  The team again discussed the issue and determined that, while we were not sure this would necessarily help Jimmy to settle better, the current situation was so grave that this option must be heeded.  So after the October holidays, Jimmy will move from Mrs Irvine's class to Mrs Mouat's class.


Written by Ms Childs

Meeting with parents, by the Support for Learning Teacher

On Friday (9/9/11), Mrs Morris, the Head Teacher, Mrs Irvine and I met with Jimmy's parents.  We all have concerns about Jimmy and felt it was best for us to all meet to discuss things together so that we could find a way forward.

Our joint concern (the school and the family) is that we can see the current situation is not working for Jimmy.  In class, Jimmy cannot join in with group activities at all anymore.  He takes himself away from the group and plays with his favourite toy, the farm.  He loudly repeats phrases to himself.  Mrs Brodie has to take him out of the class in order for him to do work.  The social stories do not help.  From this meeting, we decided that the school should apply for more Learning Assistant time from the audit. 

At home, Jimmy's dad says he can tell the situation is not working because he is hearing the repetitive chanting we are experiencing in school.  It generally occurs prior to school starting - "as soon as the school uniform is put on," Jimmy's dad said - and on the way home.  In fact, it takes the whole of the walk home before Jimmy "snaps out of it", reports his dad.  This "going into his own world" is increasingly worrying to Jimmy's parents.  Jimmy's dad feels that the environment of the class, with the bright stimuli typical of a P1 class and large number of pupils (25), seems to be having an adverse effect on Jimmy's development.  Jimmy's parents think they want to appeal the decision to deny Jimmy a place at a special school.  They were told that decisions are reviewed around January.

Over my many years of teaching, I have had so many meetings with parents - good, bad, ugly, downright contentious.  This meeting we had with Jimmy's parents, for me, typifies the worse kind of meeting for a teacher: a meeting when you feel helpless.  The frustration of Jimmy's parents was evident, and not necessarily even directed at the school staff; they were frustrated with the situation.  And I felt in some ways that our hands were tied at the school in trying to eleviate that frustration.  I feel that, at this time, this educational setting might be too much for Jimmy and yet his application was rejected by others that felt differently.

If Jimmy's parents appeal the decision, the school want to support them.  I hope our willingness to help Jimmy's parents with their appeal is not viewed as us wanting rid of him.  At the school, we want what is best of Jimmy.  Unfortunately, right now it seems that is not our mainstream school.

  
Written by Ms Childs